Monday, August 4, 2014

Engagement Advice...For The Fellas

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It still hasn't hit me that I am about to turn 23 and I am a college graduate! It seems like yesterday that I was saying goodbye to my girlfriends in high school and entering the sorority world in college, where I would meet several more fabulous ladies whom I am lucky to call friends.

What's even more amazing is the fact that three of my closest friends are engaged, pre-engaged (the parents have been asked, the ring is picked out and the proposal date has been set), and on track towards engagement. 

It occurred to me that guys are pretty darn clueless when it comes to planning anything and they might benefit from a little direction after they decide: "Ok, I want to marry her." 

So let's go down the list, shall we?

1. The Ring

Every girl has a different style when it comes to the type of engagement ring shes been dreaming about and there are several different styles to choose from. 
First, you have to decide on the type of band: gold, platinum, rose gold, etc... 
Then you must choose the type of stone. Not every girl wants a clear diamond. She might want a sapphire or a specific diamond color. 
And finally, the shape: square, princess, round, cushion, etc...There are numerous options. 
You don't want to end up like poor Aiden on Sex and the City and choose a ring that is vomit inducing. (see the clip below)

So, what do you do? Here are my suggestions:
  • Look at her Pinterest - Find me a girl that doesn't have a wedding board on Pinterest and I will be surprised! She may be cat lady status, but I guarantee she has a wedding board. You're sure to find some style options that will suit your lady via this platform.
  • Ask her BFFs - Your girlfriend has most likely been sharing her favorite ring styles with her best friends long before she met you. NOTE: Make sure the friend doesn't pick out a style that she likes, but rather that her friend (your girlfriend) will like. In the SATC clip above, Aiden was misguided by Miranda's poor taste. 
  • Talk to your girlfriend - If you've been dating for some time and you've talked about getting married, don't be afraid to ask your girlfriend what type of ring she wants. You can still surprise her if she gives you a few options to pick from. 
2. Ask for her parents permission

Her family may or may not care about this tradition, but making the effort to ask them will mean more than you know to your future in-laws and bride-to-be. Start the engagement off on the right note, by expressing how much you love your significant other to her parents. 

3. Tell friends and family & have them prepare her

By informing her family and friends of the proposal date, they can prepare her by taking her to get her nails done and making sure she looks nice for the special day. No one wants to be proposed to in gym shorts. Inviting her friends and family to the proposal  for a celebration afterwards would also add that extra special touch!

4. Hire a photographer

This day is sure to be memorable for you and your significant other, so why not capture the memory? The first thing a future bride wants to do after getting engaged is tell everyone she knows! Having professional photos adds that extra touch and will be something you can look back on as you celebrate your future anniversaries. 

Taking the time to make this day special will mean more than you know to your future bride! These simple steps will ensure a perfect proposal and a happy fiancé!

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